Guides grounded in published relationship research — every claim sourced, nothing to sell you. Start with what's actually happening:
A rough patch has a cause you can point to — the new baby, the move, the diagnosis — and underneath it, fondness and repair stay intact. Structural decline doesn't need a reason. The first question isn't how bad this feels; it's whether repair still works when one of you reaches for it.
Specific reads for what's actually happening — not generic advice.
Most “should I stay” quizzes add up points and hand you an answer. That's not how the research works — and not how respect works. Certain findings (contempt, abuse, “it was never good”) outweigh everything else; most situations are patterns, not scores. We read the patterns with you and show our sources. The decision stays yours.
Composite situations — the questions people typically bring to this decision — answered from the research, sources shown.
Is a sexless year a rough season or a verdict? On the difference between a body that's tired and a body that's left.
He records arguments to check his own memory now. What that impulse already tells him.
The house runs perfectly and the marriage doesn't exist. What the logistics are hiding, and for whom.
29 questions, ten minutes, pattern-based — built on the same sources as the guides. You get a direction and a recommended next step, never a stay-or-leave verdict, because that call isn't a quiz's to make.
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