Who makes this
Stay or Go is a small, independent project. No ads, no affiliate links, no coaching packages, no email list — and no pretense of being something it isn't.
Why it exists
Search "should I stay in my relationship" and most of what comes back is one of two things: a ten-question quiz that adds up points and tells you to leave the person you've spent a decade with, or a warm-looking article that turns into a $300 coaching funnel by paragraph six. The question deserves better. It's one of the hardest decisions most people ever make, and the people asking it are usually tired, scared, and alone with it at night.
This site is an attempt at the version we wished existed: guides specific enough to match your actual situation, grounded in the published research and honest about its limits, with a structured quiz for when reading isn't enough — and nothing for sale at the end.
What we are — and aren't
This is a writing project, not a clinical one — we are not licensed therapists, and nothing here is therapy or a clinical assessment. That's precisely why the site is built the way it is: every claim footnoted to the clinical literature (see our method and full source list), safety questions before anything else, and next steps that point at real, qualified help — therapist directories we don't own and don't profit from.
The editorial rules
- Sourced or softened. A claim either carries a citation or carries hedged language. No invented statistics, ever.
- No verdicts. Nothing on this site tells you to stay or leave. Patterns are read; the decision stays yours.
- Safety overrides everything. Where violence, coercion, or crisis appears, resources come before analysis.
- Your answers stay yours. No accounts, no email capture, no ads. Quiz answers never leave your browser; analytics are aggregate and consent-gated.
- Corrections in place. Errors get fixed and dated, not quietly deleted. Write to feedback@stayorgo.now.
The situations column
The situations column answers first-person scenarios in an advice-column format. An honest disclosure, because it matters: these are composite situations, built from the questions people typically bring to this decision — not real submitted letters. Each page says so. If you'd like your own situation considered as the basis for a future composite, write to feedback@stayorgo.now; details are always changed beyond recognition, and nothing is ever published as sent.